Time is a litmus test. Time is a double-edged sword.
It's funny how time reveals the strengths of a person yet exposes the cracks in a relationship. And by relationship, i mean it in the broad sense. Friendships, working relationships, etc.
Human relationships work in funny ways. There was a friend who used to be close and i thought that we would remain as good friends. From time to time, we had our misunderstandings but things were swept under the rug until one day, things blew out of proportion. This friend decided to "leave" and "not appear anymore". So there and then, we stopped communicating. i was appalled by how lightly those words were said to show how much (or little) he regarded our friendships when we were there during his family crisis. Time showed how fragile our friendship was.
Strangely enough, it was during our hospital visit to this friend's dad that i bumped into another used-to-be-friend who is a nurse. We broke contact due to some complications but our coincidental meeting was really a blessing in disguise. It wasn't the least bit awkward when we talked and she was very helpful in suggesting possibilities for the previous friend's family situation. Recently, she added me back on facebook and we chatted normally. It's always better to have one more friend than one more enemy, isn't it? i'm just so so grateful for being able to restore the friendship after like 6 years? (:
And i also realised that we are close to different people at different points of our lives. That's just how things are and there is nothing wrong with it. Although i lament over the friendships that have distanced themselves through time, i am thankful for the friends who have stuck around despite my numerous flaws.
Of course, time may alter our relationships but for now, i will just treasure what i have and count my blessings.
