We started our long distance relationship.
Just got back from NZ last night. And although we've been through so many goodbyes, saying goodbye is never easy.
I remember being really sad the first time we parted, so much so that the sadness lingered for a month when i got back. But i guess at that time, it was the fear of uncertainty that made it painful. When will we see each other again? Will we make it through our LDR?
It wasn't easy and it took a lot, and i really mean, A LOT, to make it through these 4 years. We had to work our way around the differences and difficulties. And to be positive, for each other. Initially, i felt sad at not being able to date like a normal couple because in Singapore, couples who live in opposite ends of the country can easily meet up in under an hour. But when i think about couples in other countries living in different states, i realise that this counts as an LDR too. At best, they meet on weekends. In our case, we skype on weekends, meet every half-yearly and live with a 4-5 hour time difference. Not THAT different right? Hahaha.
The boyfriend and i had a conversation on this, on our way to the airport yesterday. Rather than looking at the demerits, we are thankful for the quality time we have whenever we are physically together. Also, the non-obligation to meet up frequently allows us to have our me-time, social activities and commitment to work. We are independent but supportive. The mutual trust we have develops our relationship. There is no need to keep tabs on each other because we are always sharing.
People always ask me how i deal with an LDR when they come to know of it. But being in any relationship, LDR or not, is never easy. i've read a fair bit of LDR articles and stories myself. And some of them seem overly-dramatic. There are even posts on why people should go LDR, like what? Of course, there's always room for the skeptics. Well, being in an LDR doesn't make it more romantic or sweet. Neither is it impossible for LDR to work. Some work out, some don't, just like any other relationship.
After 4 years, we are still very much in love. We've grown, as a couple and as a person. We've also become more like each other, which i can't decide if it's a good thing? Haha. But i'm very very thankful that his parents treat me like their own. These 4 years would not have been possible without their support.
I'm thankful for what i have :)
